A Turning Point

I’ve been sitting in office and pretending I was doing my job, my mind is floating somewhere and there is a sudden thought of starting my own blog for my “so-called” new life.. new commitment… another new level of runway.. everything seem new to me since I pronounced myself as “MRS” X…

It’s like a common conversation and questions to people’s mouth that they frequently ask these kind of questions, like example,

When a person is single...question no 1 : “Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?” or “No boyfriend/girlfriend yet?”

Then, when they got themselves a partner, question no 2 : “When are you both getting marry?”.. or “ Don’t wait too long, u are no young, get marry soon”

And then, after you are married, question no. 3 : “When are you going to get a child of your own?” … “How many children you are planning to have?”

Trust me, I have been through those questions and it totally annoyed me!.. But if you are to think deep, that is part of our life which we will go through and of course it’s for those who pledge to take up the challenge to be a wife and mother. Some relationship will just come naturally, some will work their ass out just to achieve a relationship and to be able to have a family.

2 persons having to pledge to be together, love each other, cherish each other, will still care for each other even with sickness.. blah blah blah.. (those pledges makes you read during the wedding ceremony) is all bullshit, if one does not realize even one of the caption they read. Love, responsibilities and trust is important in a relationship. Both must understand it to make a relationship happen. One hand just doesn’t clap, it need both!

I must say am lucky enough to find someone like my husband, even with his tied up job and does not allow him to spend most of his time with me, I understand and I compromise it. And he himself knows that he needs to do something to patch it up whenever he got the time for me. I believe that in this early life of marriage and new found family, compromising and trusting each other is important. With determination that it will grow to a blossom cheery tree and bring happiness n cares to those who planted it.

A simple quotes from Daisaku Ikeda

“Ideal love is fostered only between two sincere, mature and independent people. It is the inner struggle to polish these attributes that is the key. ... Real love is not two people clinging to each other; it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality.”